Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. (1 John 4:8)
When we are emotionally dependent on someone, we look to them like a “filler” to cover over and to distract us from unresolved emotional issues in ourselves. This is not love. When one person is looking for another person to complete him or her, then the integrity of the relationship will suffer.
In order to truly love someone, you first need to discover and to explore what love is. You need to start with loving yourself. You need to be a whole person. A relationship requires two whole persons for it to work. When one person is “incomplete”, in terms of one’s issues and lack of self-worth, the relationship will not work. There will be dysfunctional areas.